Ferenc’s Story
A recovering alcoholic who has been helped by a therapy programme in Romania says that the hardest part of the process was learning to forgive himself for the grief he had caused his own family as a result of his drinking.
“I can do hard work but then I lost my job,” admits Ferenc, aged 37. “My mother wept and prayed for me and implored me to change but I responded with aggression. My wife stayed with me only because she had nowhere else to go with our little girl. Eventually I tried to kill myself. Now I thank God that I was taken to hospital in time, and that my life was saved.”
In hospital Ferenc was visited by a worker from Bonus Pastor Foundation, which runs a therapy programme with support from Blythswood Care.
Ferenc is a good-natured, friendly person. Discharged from hospital to the therapy centre, he soon became a favourite with others on the programme. “In spite of this, it was difficult to cope with the shame, guilt and remorse I felt when I had to admit how much sorrow and bitterness I had caused to my own loved ones,” he says. “How could I forgive myself?”
The Christian faith that underpins Bonus Pastor Foundation’s programme was the catalyst for the radical change that he so desperately needed. “My therapy was a process,” he says. “An important moment was a conference where I met the gracious and loving God, who forgave my sins as well. Since then I read the Bible daily. It is real food for my soul.”
Now back at home, Ferenc has found employment again and is mending family relationships. “Since I changed there is peace and calmness in our house,” he says. “Even now, after many months, my mother is still amazed by the change I went through, and is very grateful to God. My relationship with my wife has been restored more slowly. She found it difficult to forgive me. My daughter loves me steadfastly and is very attached to me.”